How to get over a (band) breakup

One day everything is great. Your speakers are on full blast, your dance moves have no limits and your voice is at its highest level singing along to the lyrics. You’ve got tickets to see your favorite band next week. The outfit has been picked, lyrics have been memorized, signs have been made. You’re overcome with joy and happiness and nothing will come in the way of your perfect day.

Until suddenly a tour is cancelled, a twitter account is deleted and the band falls silent. Your heart shatters and your world breaks. What. Is. Going On. Band break-ups are hard for everyone: the band itself, its label, management team, fans, venues, and even the media who have to work extra hours to give readers the latest breaking news.


But alas, here are some tips to help get your through this tough time:

1. Don’t believe rumors.
Drug abuse, violent arguments and baby barriers: the media will publish any crazy but completely untrue facts to help satisfy fans. Unless it’s from a reputable source or heard on live TV (thanks Good Morning America) from the band member’s mouthes themselves, don’t trust anything you read on the internet. It’ll only make you more upset and confused.

2. Control your emotions.
Speaking of being upset and confused, you may be feeling a crazy mix of emotions that range from anger to sadness to even denial. It’s completely normal, but what you don’t want to do is start ripping off posters from your wall and throwing them into the fireplace to burn while you scream your hatred towards the group you once loved. While the band may not reveal all of the details to the press about the reasons behind their decision, remember that they’re humans just like you. They get into disagreements, they lose interest, they want to try something new and they’re millionaires who ride Mustangs. Just believe that they’re always thinking of their fans and doing what’s best.

3. Find a support (Facebook) group.
Your mom might think your crazy and your best friend may think you’re annoying. The thing is, they just don’t understand what you’re going through. That’s why it’s crucial and so helpful to find other superfans like yourself whether it’s on facebook, tumblr or twitter. These fans have been there since the first album, been to every tour and know everything and anything about the band mates. You can relate to them and bond over this shocking news.

4. Reminisce on the good times.
Instead of focusing on all the “never’s” like how you’ll never hear a new song and never attend another concert, take this time to think about all the great times you’ve had with the band. All the new friends you’ve made because of them, moments you’ve shared while listening to their songs, voices you’ve lost from screaming and concerts that gave you post-concert-depression. It’s been a wild ride, and it was bound to happen sooner or later, though of course later (like when you’re old and grey) would have been the better option. But hey, as those pictures with a vintage background that has nothing to do with the quote on tumblr say, “life doesn’t always go your way.”

5. It’s okay to find a rebound band, just not a replacement.
There’s no denying that music has always been the best tool to get you through the tough times. So don’t stop using it now. For some, listening to totally new bands and albums will help to put this sad band breakup news at the back of their mind, while others may prefer having an album listening marathon of the band that’s no more. It’s really up to you but there’s no need to completely disown them.

In conclusion all of the above are lies. You’ll. Never. Ever. Get. Over. The. Jonas. Brothers. Your. Fav. Band. Breaking. Up. Ever. So grab a tub of ice cream (preferably birthday cake flavored, have you not been to Cold Stone?), a box of tissues and all of your live tour DVDs and just mope around for a few days. It’s not the end of the world, just a great part of your life. Who knows, the band may even release four new songs just for you!



What it’s like interviewing one of the biggest boy bands of our generation

No, not One Direction, and no, not the Backstreet Boys.

As a budding journalist, I’ve been fortunate enough to have experienced unforgettable events and had incredible opportunities through my internships. But nothing compared to the day of July 18 when the Jonas Brothers were in town.

When I got an email from my editor saying I was going to have the opportunity to interview this boy band I’ve been a fan of since I was 16, I couldn’t contain my excitement.
Luckily I found out a couple days before so the countdown wasn’t that long.

But I did have to scramble to find someone to buy my VIP Meet and Greet tickets that I purchased months in advance for their concert. Yes, I love them enough to pay $250 to meet them.

So, fast forward to the day of the interview. My outfit was picked (I opted for a white crop top and red skater skirt), my hair was done (curls, please!) and I was on my way. It was held in their hotel suite and I met the label’s publicist in the lobby. Together we made our way upstairs and as soon as the elevator door opened on their floor, their bodyguard was sitting on chair. Instead of the usual, the-less-I-talk-the-better bodyguard, this one was extremely sweet and friendly. At last after a good five minutes of waiting, the door to their suite opened and I saw a crowded room. I entered as the Jonas Brother’s team parted ways like the red sea to reveal Joe and Kevin at the back of the room. While my interview partner in crime shook Joe’s hand, Kevin reached for mine, but I dumb foundedly was too busy starring at Joe.

Then the interview took place, an interview I will post on here as soon as it’s up, but to get the gist of it, it was quite awkward on my behalf. Being the socially awkward and kinda starstruck fangirl at the moment, to everything they said I would respond with “Awesome!” like a broken, talking, preppy Barbie Doll.

“Yeah, we’re glad to be back.”
“Obviously we’re going to take some time off when Kevin and Dani have the baby.”
“We don’t really have a favourite song on the album.”

…so yeah, I’ve got to work on my conversation skills, because I obviously could not carry one with them. But overall, such a great experience and I am beyond thankful for it.
Stay tuned for the full interview in the coming weeks!

Blog Action Day 2012: Power of We

In a world that seems to revolve around everything “I”–with the most popular products themselves being labeled as “iPhone”, “iPad” etc.–it’s important to take the time to recognize how much power “we” has.

When people come together to do great things, whether it’s create the next big technology or peacefully protest for a cause they strongly believe in, great things can happen.

Free the Children’s We Day, which I recently attended in Toronto, focused on the “power of we” throughout the huge youth empowerment event and introduced one particular campaign that really demonstrates how the coming together of many people can create a lasting difference.

It’s called “We Create Change”, a penny drive, made possible by RBC, that aims to provide 100, 000 people with permanent sources of clean water.

Somehow, the numbers one and 100, 000 seem so far off from each other that they don’t belong in one sentence together.

However when Canadian youth come together to collect pennies to create change, the smallest amount of one cent can amount to saving 100, 000 people.

“Growing up, I’m sure I wasn’t alone in having a piggy bank filled with pennies and loose change, so why not use this change to help make real change possible,” said Craig Kielburger, Founder of Free the Children. “Free the Children is going back to basics this year with a penny drive, and it’s now easier than ever to make your cents count.”

The Canadian penny will soon be going out of circulation, and this campaign brings together students to give a powerful send-off to it.

One penny bag, which is provided to students and schools by Free the Children, once filled equals to $25 and is enough to provide one person with a permanent source of clean water.

“We Create Change” is one campaign that definitely shows the positive impact of the “power of we”.

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”  – Helen Keller

Be sure to check out Free the Children’s promo video for “We Create Change” featuring the Jonas Brothers, The Wanted and Nelly Furtado: