Until suddenly a tour is cancelled, a twitter account is deleted and the band falls silent. Your heart shatters and your world breaks. What. Is. Going On. Band break-ups are hard for everyone: the band itself, its label, management team, fans, venues, and even the media who have to work extra hours to give readers the latest breaking news.

But alas, here are some tips to help get your through this tough time:

1. Don’t believe rumors.
Drug abuse, violent arguments and baby barriers: the media will publish any crazy but completely untrue facts to help satisfy fans. Unless it’s from a reputable source or heard on live TV (thanks Good Morning America) from the band member’s mouthes themselves, don’t trust anything you read on the internet. It’ll only make you more upset and confused.

2. Control your emotions.
Speaking of being upset and confused, you may be feeling a crazy mix of emotions that range from anger to sadness to even denial. It’s completely normal, but what you don’t want to do is start ripping off posters from your wall and throwing them into the fireplace to burn while you scream your hatred towards the group you once loved. While the band may not reveal all of the details to the press about the reasons behind their decision, remember that they’re humans just like you. They get into disagreements, they lose interest, they want to try something new and they’re millionaires who ride Mustangs. Just believe that they’re always thinking of their fans and doing what’s best.

3. Find a support (Facebook) group.
Your mom might think your crazy and your best friend may think you’re annoying. The thing is, they just don’t understand what you’re going through. That’s why it’s crucial and so helpful to find other superfans like yourself whether it’s on facebook, tumblr or twitter. These fans have been there since the first album, been to every tour and know everything and anything about the band mates. You can relate to them and bond over this shocking news.

4. Reminisce on the good times.
Instead of focusing on all the “never’s” like how you’ll never hear a new song and never attend another concert, take this time to think about all the great times you’ve had with the band. All the new friends you’ve made because of them, moments you’ve shared while listening to their songs, voices you’ve lost from screaming and concerts that gave you post-concert-depression. It’s been a wild ride, and it was bound to happen sooner or later, though of course later (like when you’re old and grey) would have been the better option. But hey, as those pictures with a vintage background that has nothing to do with the quote on tumblr say, “life doesn’t always go your way.”

5. It’s okay to find a rebound band, just not a replacement.
There’s no denying that music has always been the best tool to get you through the tough times. So don’t stop using it now. For some, listening to totally new bands and albums will help to put this sad band breakup news at the back of their mind, while others may prefer having an album listening marathon of the band that’s no more. It’s really up to you but there’s no need to completely disown them.

In conclusion all of the above are lies. You’ll. Never. Ever. Get. Over. The. Jonas. Brothers. Your. Fav. Band. Breaking. Up. Ever. So grab a tub of ice cream (preferably birthday cake flavored, have you not been to Cold Stone?), a box of tissues and all of your live tour DVDs and just mope around for a few days. It’s not the end of the world, just a great part of your life. Who knows, the band may even release four new songs just for you!

-@Naomi_ML

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You’ll notice that 50% of the songs are of the country genre (okay, just two out of the four). But that’s weird for me. For the longest time I was one of those ignorant “country music sucks” people. I would proudly say, “I like all genres of music” before quickly adding “except country of course”.

But over the past year and a bit I’ve found a new love and appreciation for this genre that most people shun. I guess it started with Taylor Swift back in her actual country days (seriously, why is she still winning CMA awards?) but then I began to listen to that one The Band Perry Song (If I Die Young) that was acceptable for everyone to like. And from that I moved on to that one country band (Lady Antebellum) that was winning all of those awards and therefore also acceptable for everyone to like. And now I’ve been listening to Tim McGraw and Florida Georgia Cruise Line?

The way my teenage rock and pop loving self would shake their head… And throw in the fact that I’m brown (but all my good friends know that I’m a coconut aka brown on the outside, white on the inside), and jaws would drop to the floor.

I guess the moral of the story is, don’t proclaim loudly and proudly that you hate a particular genre of music unless you truly give it an unbiased listen. And oh right, here’s my short but sweet May playlist selection:

Snoop Lion Ft. Miley Cyrus – Ashtrays and Heartbreaks Florida Georgia Line – Cruise Vita Chambers – Fix You Tim McGraw Ft. Taylor Swift – Highway Don’t Care

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