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5 Feelings That Come With Cleaning Out Your Closet

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Whether it’s a yearly, seasonal or monthly task or something you just do when you’re moving, there will be a moment when you find yourself cleaning out your closet. No matter how much time you spend in that tiny crammed up space (or giant walk-in if you’re extremely blessed) dedicated to your wardrobe, it’s safe to say you’re bound to experience one, or heck probably all, of the following feelings while doing so.



1. Joy
 Alright so for most people, cleaning out your closet is one of the least enjoyable chores on your to-do list. It’s time consuming and not an easy thing to do. Let’s face it, deciding what to keep, donate or throw is the hardest decision you’ve come across since deciding which college to attend. However, there are a select few who find pure bliss when getting rid of last seasons’ trends or reorganizing all your shirts by color and size. And so this feeling is dedicated to you.

2. Regret
There are many clothes from your past that have been long forgotten in the deep depths of your closet. You know that hideous sweater or unflattering pair of jeans you find and say “What was I thinking?!”, a statement that applies to the moment you spotted the item, thought it was cute, thought it looked good on you in the fitting room, purchased it, and wore it…many times in public. If you could go back in time and give your seventeen-year-old self one piece of advice, it would definitely be that bell bottom jeans are not cute.

3. Nostalgia
Everyone has that old band tee or volunteer shirt from one of the dozen committees you were a part of in high school or college that when found again gives you a rush of memories. Just the touch and smell of it brings back the good times and you know that this is a piece you’ll take with you to the grave. Then, there are the items that bring back the memories you wish could disappear into your subconscious forever. You know, the shirt with that stain you got after the-worst-date-ever spilled his wine on you. With things like that, it’s best to practice your best Michael Jordan shot by throwing it straight into the garbage can.

4. Relief
Sometimes beloved items you thought were lost forever resurface and you let out a big sigh and/or the biggest smile creeps up on your face. It could be your great-grandmothers necklace that somehow ended up in your sock drawer or a vintage sweater that was passed down your family for generations. Either way, cleaning out your closet brings unexpected surprises. The completion of the entire task of cleaning out your closet also calls for a big sigh of relief, leaving you with a hopefully satisfied feeling of an afternoon well spent.

5. Sadness
It’s not easy parting ways with your things, at least not as easy as it should be. Especially when you invested so much money into an item. But there’s no point keeping something that you will never touch again, or you know will never come back in style. The point of cleaning out your closet is to get rid of things, so saying goodbye is a must. “You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding.” – Guy Finley

8 Truths About The Immediate Post Grad Life

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As published on Thought Catalog.

Hey you collegiate graduate you. Congrats! You’ve spent the past 16 years of your life fulfilling your duties, as assigned by society, as a student and now it’s time for you to enter “the real world” (thankfully not the MTV show). Yup, the minute you walked across that stage and moved over your tassel to the left side, you “officially” became an adult.

Fast forward a couple weeks, maybe even months. Your diploma still has the smell of fresh ink (at least, hypothetically), Vitamin C’s Graduation Song still pops up on your playlist and you’re living the post grad life. However, it’s not all chalked up to be what the movies, your parents, teachers and the media made it seem. That good grades + good school + degree/diploma formula doesn’t always equal a good job. So my fellow postgrad, here are some truths (that I hope you can relate with) to life shortly following that graduation ceremony.

1. You’re going to get bored.
With no school and no job, there is going to be an abundance of free time; more than you’ve ever had during your time as as a student. Soon Facebook statuses and tweets on Twitter will become redundant and you’ll be able to (proudly) say you’ve binge-watched every good show on Netflix. So what’s there to do? Spend this time reigniting your passion for an old forgotten hobby, volunteer or get a part-time job even if it’s not in your desired field. Oh and obviously scouring job boards for that dream job. It’s out there somewhere!

2. Time will pass by quickly.
One day you’ll find yourself playing The Sims on a Monday, and the the next thing you know it’s Friday. Procrastinating may have worked in your favour in school, but nothing good comes from pushing back the job search or application process. As soon as you see a position you’re interested in, apply right away, regardless of when the deadline is. Also remember it’s summer! The sun is out, the weather is warm, enjoy it. There’s no need to stay crammed up indoors just because you’re not technically on “vacation” from anything.

3. Living at your parents house is not going to be easy.
Of course this is all dependent on your home life and family. But whether you’ve spent the past four years fending for yourself on residence or off-campus housing, or stayed at home and suffered the commuter life, as you get older your desire for more freedom is greater. And when you have your mom still barging into your room to remind you to clean, eat or sleep, it can be a struggle. However, there are major positives that come with living with the parentals, like those home-cooked meals, clean laundry, and absence of rent bills. Remember as you get older, so do your parents. So spend time with them while you can, ask them questions, learn from their experiences and sometimes even, take their advice.

4. You will find yourself continuing to work for minimum wage.
The moment you receive your degree/diploma, is not the minute your hourly income goes up. Unfortunately that retail or restaurant job you had during college doesn’t care that your name is printed on a fancy paper from the University of BlahBlahBlah and that you after many sleepless nights and bottomless coffees you can finally recite every single metaphor in Shakespeare’s Hamlet.

5. Entry-level jobs are not easy to find.
That being said, expect to continue working your college job postgrad. Whether you’re ready for that 9-5 life or not, finding a full-time entry-level position is a huge challenge. Seeing 5-6 years experience under the requirements of a job will become the norm, but don’t be discouraged, continue the hunt.

6. You will feel unsuccessful and lost.
When you see all of the Facebook statuses and LinkedIn updates about classmates and friends landing their dream jobs, let alone a paying gig in the first place, it’s going to put you in a down mood. Not to mention the marriage proposals and baby showers… But life is not like school, where everyone is expected to graduate at the same time. People will find success at their own pace, and it’s more than normal not to find it immediately upon graduation. You’ll only see the good things broadcasted on social media. “Still unemployed and broke!” is not a Facebook status you’re likely to see. So keep in mind that while three people are working jobs with full benefits, thirty are still searching.

7. You will lose touch with your friends.
The moment classes end, friendships will start to dwindle. First to go are those who you just talked to when you saw them in the hallways or in class, but soon the ones you counted on to hold your hair back on Friday nights and shared inside jokes with will also drift away. Wrangling together everyone for some drinks won’t be as easy with different schedules and even different cities acting as roadblocks. In order to keep up relationships, real time and effort needs to be put into them. Don’t wait for someone to message you, send a simple “hey, how’s it going?” text in order to keep in touch.

8. The future is scary.
Like break down in the middle of the night because you don’t know what you’re doing with your life scary. For the first time in a long time, you don’t know where you’ll be or what you’ll be doing in September let alone the next year. But that’s okay, you’re not going through this alone, and you have the rest of your life to decide what you want to do. “The best things in life are unexpected–because there were no expectations.” – Eli Khamarov “

The Postgrad Life: Week 1

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It’s been a month since I officially walked out of my university building for the last time and said goodbye to school. Though I have yet to cross that big fancy stage in front of my five family members and hundreds of strangers to receive my degree and diploma, it’s safe to say I am a post-secondary school graduate.

This is a huge transition in my life. I’m no longer able to call myself a student, instead, it’s up to me to work hard to find or even create a title that will define me (at least on LinkedIn and social media). And so as I go through these summer months as a post-grad, I thought I’d write a weekly post about what I did, learned and discovered during this confusing, unpredictable time in my life.

Spending your free time doing absolutely nothing is okay.

“You’re wasting your life away,” says my mom as she stops at the edge of my door, a door she opened without knocking by the way. I suppose if you were her or anyone else looking in from the outside, it would appear that way. You can barely tell the colour of my carpet as it struggles for air underneath layers of clothing, dozens of magazines, scrunched up shopping bags, a bunch of cables and chargers and…oh right, that’s where I kept my lunch from two days ago. I am seated at my desk,  which is suffering the same fate as my floor. Though I’m surrounded by chaos, the life I’m living out on my laptop is well-planned, organized and perfect. My Sim was just recently promoted and can finally afford that new Margaret Vaguester car. I popped open pandora’s box, I mean the CD, at 11:30 on Monday morning and the next thing I knew it was 1am…on Wednesday.

So from my mom’s point of view, I spent a week avoiding reality such as that of cleaning my room, and instead spent countless hours creating the perfect life for my Sim, instead of doing things expected of post grads like looking for a full-time job.

But for me, this was a week of freedom. A week that took me back to my summers in elementary school where I would have no worries and endless days to just sit back, do nothing and enjoy myself. I had fun, my Sim certainly had fun. But don’t worry, I promise this won’t be my schedule for the rest of the summer. In fact, I’ve decided to eject The Sims 3 and tuck it away safely for the time being. Next week, I just may start that dreaded job search…or not.

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8 things to keep you occupied during your weeklong break from school

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We all appreciate the freedom that is A) Reading Week B) Spring Break or C) March Break depending on your school. It’s a week without classes, homework, tests and essays. While at first you’re super excited to sleep in and spend your days in your pajamas watching Netflix and keeping tabs on social media, after a while boredom tends to creep in and you feel like you’re going crazy. Because let’s face it, there are only so many reruns you can watch and after a while even Facebook starts to get redundant. Luckily we’ve got a list of things to do.

1. Cook/bake something new.
Whether cooking is something you do on a daily basis or the oven and stove are foreign objects to you, now is a great time to dust off those recipe books and put those Pinterest recipes to good use. Try creating a dish and surprising your family with dinner or bake a cake from scratch. Cooking is a valuable skill to have and practice makes perfect! As a bonus, you can go back to school not have to eat Mac and Cheese or Ramen noodles every night.

2. Host a movie marathon.
 When you’re not going to class everyday, you’re also not seeing your friends everyday which can be a total bummer! A movie marathon at your house is the perfect opportunity to get together and catch up with everyone. You can choose to watch a trilogy from beginning to end, or select a theme for the night like rom-coms or horror.

3. Take part in a community class.
 At this point in your life you may already know exactly what your talents and your skills are or you could be confused about who you are and still on the road to self-discovery. Taking part in a drop-in class is a great way to challenge yourself to try something new, while finding a hidden passion. Your hands could be perfect for sculpting clay vases or your legs powerful enough to conquer kickboxing; you’ll never know unless you try.

4. Travel to somewhere you’ve never been.
 Of course as a student, your wallet is probably starving, so it’s not expected of you to buy a plane ticket and fly off to Ibiza. Though if you have the funds or generous parents, it’s highly recommended. But trips can be made to places just 30 minutes away to the city next to you. Being a tourist allows you to see new places, experience new things and make memories. A change in scenery is the perfect antidote to a very bored mind.

5. Complete a DIY project.
 D0-it-yourself projects seem to be everywhere! From YouTube to Tumblr to Pinterest to even here on faze.ca! The possibilities are endless and really cater to all interests. Interior decorators can create a snazzy bookshelf, tech geeks can make their own phone and tablet cases while fashionistas can turn old clothes into new. DIY projects save you money but will cost you time, but with the completion of one comes a new skill gained, satisfaction and bragging rights. “Whoa, so that’s not from IKEA?” is going to be the common question you’ll be hearing from friends.

6. Reconnect with an old friend.
 Having a week off from your classmates gives you the opportunity to invest time in those long lost friends. You know, your best friend from the eighth grade or your homeroom buddy from high school. As you get older, you also get busier, and keeping relationships takes a lot of time and effort. However, you’ll find that all it takes is a simple “hey, how are you doing?” message to rekindle what was once a great friendship. This week is also the perfect week to reach out to people since most will be home from school or also enjoying a break.

7. Clean and organize.
Cleaning your room and closet is the obvious choice and one that your mom will rejoice at. But what about your phone, tablet and computer? Electronics get clogged up with junk a lot and need a good cleaning out once in a while. On your phone and/or tablet, delete all of the apps you haven’t used in the past few months (Because really, who plays Temple Run anymore?). Check through your photo gallery and delete any unwanted pictures; you’ll be surprised how many blurry and empty pictures you’ll find in there. One of these days your memory is going to get full and you’ll be scrambling to delete pictures in order to capture the moment that’s happening right then. Your computer is a much bigger task, with so many folders to go through. Everything from your desktop to documents to downloads should have a good clean through. Also try organizing everything by creating folders, so it’s much easier to find stuff.

8. Read a book.
 This may sound like the last thing you’d want to do during your break from school, but believe it or not before television and the internet, books used to be a form of entertainment. Oh wait, they still are! A good and interesting book can take you into another world, have you sitting on the edge of your seat, getting attached to the characters and feeling lost when you’ve turned the last page. There are many genres to dive into but if you’re not sure where to start, your best bet is checking out the soon-to-be movie adaptations like Divergent or The Fault in Our Stars.